it's only a matter of time before we all burn

So, an update on the eHarmony front... but, first, let me explain the process.

1. The eHarmony experts/gurus/whatevers send you matches.
2. You review the match profile, which is about 10 items, including general facts about his personality and a broad overview of his interests. You can also look at pictures, if he's posted any. (SIDENOTE TO SINGLE MEN ON eHARMONY: only answering 3 questions and not posting pictures is not a way to get ANYONE to respond to you. That's akin to striking up a conversation with a stranger in an alley. Wait, you can see what the stranger looks like, so it may be worse. TAKE TEN MINUTES, ANSWER THE QUESTIONS, AND POST SOME PICTURES.) You can close the match based on what you see (like, his 2 year-old son is his soul mate) or move forward...
3. You pick 5 mulitple-choice questions from a provided list to send to him and he does the same. You can close the match or move forward...
4. If you like the answers, you both swap your must-haves/can't-stands - a list that you select from a provided list. You can close the match or move forward...
5. You pick 3 short-answer questions from a provided list or you can make up your own to send him and he does the same. You can close the match or move forward...
6. Then, you're in open communication territory, where you start emailing directly.

So, that being said, I made it through the short-answer questions before a guy I was kind of excited about closed our match. I have no idea why. You're allowed to send a final message (from a provided list) to the person that closes a match, so I did that. But I'm bummed. Rejection online is still rejection.

And I finally sent short messages to 3 guys that were at the open communication point. I'm not super-excited about any of them. We'll see what happens.